Asia’s dating scene is way different from anything you’ll encounter back in the West. And for many guys, this causes big problems. To help you avoid any trouble, this article will show you how to game Vietnamese women.
This advice will work no matter what type of dating you want to do. Whether you’re looking for hook-ups, casual relationships, or a serious girlfriend.
Below are seven useful tips to instantly improve your game.
1. Day Time Approaches Are Your Best Bet
Vietnamese bars and clubs are pretty different from what you see back home.
Many places offer karaoke, where groups of friends book a private room together and sing songs until the wee hours of the morning.
Likewise, many Vietnamese women go out to bars and clubs with family members.
Between karaoke bars (where it’s literally impossible to meet women because they’re all off in private rooms) and having to drink beer with the whole extended family, night game kind of sucks. At least for me anyways.
My suggestion is to focus on meeting women during the day (or online).
Daytime approaches are easy. Go to a coffeehouse or mall and start chatting with a girl who looks cute. This might sound intimidating, but it actually isn’t. Vietnamese girls are very friendly and shy, so the chick you’re talking too will actually be more nervous than you at the start of your conversation!
This is a very casual way to meet women, and virtually stress-free.
If you can make basic small-talk, you’ve got all the skills you need to start meeting Vietnamese women during the day.
[Side note: If you’re hesitant about doing this, or don’t know what to say, there’s a really good book called Day Bang that’s all about meeting women in casual daytime environments. It’s worth a read.]
2. Understand The Power Of Questions
(The Most Powerful Weapon In Your Seduction Arsenal)
What’s the most powerful way to engage women in conversation?
When most men get “blown out” at the start of a conversation, it’s because failed to pique the girl’s interest. They walked up to her and started talking about themselves (or rehashing some tired old pick-up line).
By asking questions you naturally engage the girl in conversation. In 99.9% of cases, women will answer whatever you’ve asked them.
Additionally, asking questions is a great way to gather information about the girl you like.
If you know she likes waking in the park and eating ice cream, it’s easy to invite her on a date to those exact activities.
Questioning is a powerful skill, and almost second-nature to anyone working in sales. However, the vast majority of people (outside the world of selling) never develop this skill.
If you’re looking to improve your questioning and general conversation skills, check out How to Talk to Anyone, by Leil Lowndes. It’s a fantastic book all about asking questions and becoming a better communicator.
3. Learn A Bit Of The Local Language
(The Best Language Course Around)
Many Vietnamese women have a tough time speaking English. This creates a language barrier that’s difficult to overcome.
Luckily, there’s an easy solution.
Learn some local Vietnamese words and phrases.
Invest in the Pimsleur language course (it’s less than $30), and master basic small talk. Knowing how to say “hello,” “how are you,” “goodbye,” and other simple phrases goes a long way in improving your game.
4. Go Out Solo
Here’s some nightlife advice for you.
Most men refuse to go to a bar or club alone.
Instead, many guys “roll deep” or head out in “wolf packs.” This is great, if you never want to get laid.
Because the majority of dudes just want to get drunk. They go to crappy bars, don’t approach girls, and think that being irritating (yelling or doing dumb stunts) will “make the ladies come to them.”
It’s embarrassing. And a huge cockblocker too.
Instead, be like James Bond.
Go in solo, be confident, and actually talk to women instead dancing around like a clown and hoping they’ll notice you.
5. Don’t Game Vietnamese Women Too Hard
Here’s a little tip for the serious players.
If you’ve got tight game in the West (especially America), you’re used to a very aggressive style of game. Fingering girls on the dance floor, making out in public, and sexualizing conversations as quickly as possible.
This doesn’t work in Vietnam.
Women are very conservative, and will freak out if you try any hardcore tactics.
In fact, some chicks even get nervous holding hands in public.
As such, you need to tone things done. Move slowly, and work on building a connection before you rush in for sex.
6. Use The “Home Dinner Date” Move For Sex
(Learn One Or Two Signature Dishes To Make)
I’ve written about this before, but inviting a girl over and making her a home cooked meal is a great date idea. When a chick’s willing to come over to your place, it’s a good sign she wants to have sex with you.
Master a few simple dishes, and then invite your dates over to eat at your places.
It’s a great way to get girls back to your apartment for a night a good food and great sex.
7. Improve Your “Passive Game”
Here’s something no one talks about. Many guys are perfectly okay at talking to women and being charming. However, they’ve got some sort of “lifestyle flaw” that turns girls off.
These are things like being over-weight, dressing poorly (a common issue with Western men who move to Asia), or living in a shitty apartment.
Luckily, there’s an upside to all these problems.
You’re always able to improve your “passive game,” and become a more attractive man.
Read a style guide and buy better clothes.
All of these issues are easy to fix. And upgrading one or two areas of your overall lifestyle will have a huge effect on your sex life.
P.S. Looking for a good, all-around dating guide? Check out Models, by Mark Manson. This is an excellent book filled with solid, actionable advice for getting women.