Vietnamese women are sexually conservative. Because of this, it can be hard to bring them back to your place without a well thought out reason.
Asking a girl to come by and “chill” or “watch a movie” won’t always work. You’ll need to win her over with something a little more enticing. That’s where the home dinner date comes in.
Inviting a girl to come over and eat a home-cooked meal at your apartment is a classy alternative to “Netflix and chill.” As a result most Vietnamese women will take you up on your dinner date offer, eager to come over and spend the evening at your place.
Which Girls Will A Home Dinner Date Work On?
(Ramen Noodles With Some Beef And Vegetables)
As effective as this date is, there are certain guidelines for using it. Vietnam is a conservative country. Inviting girls over too early in your relationship can backfire, making them wary of your advances. Likewise, cooking for girls who aren’t all that into you wastes your time.
To make your home dinner date effective, here are seven factors to consider when planning your date:
1. You’ve Already Went On Two Or More Dates
While inviting girls directly to your place works well in some countries (like the United States), it can hinder you in Vietnam. Many Vietnamese women are old-school and there are plenty of good girls who are saving themselves for marriage.
Trying to bring a girl back to your place on the first date usually won’t work.
As a result, it’s a good idea to stash your home dinner date for later. Bring it up after you’ve already hung out twice, this way the girl will be more receptive and willing to take you up on your offer.
2. You’ve Already Kissed Or Made-Out
If a Vietnamese girl has makes out with you, she likes you. Use this as the green-light for your home dinner date.
A woman who’s comfortable making out with you will be more open to spending the evening at your apartment. There’s also a good chance that she’s willing to sleep with you.
3. You Know How To Cook Something
You don’t have to be a master chef to make this date work. But, you do need some competence in the kitchen.
Knowing how to make something simple (spaghetti is my go-to dish) is fine. You don’t have to get too fancy. It’s better to make a simple meal that tastes great, than to get in over your head with some “gourmet” dish.
If you’re struggling to find easy but tasty recipes, check out Mark Bittman’s How to Cook Everything. It’s full of great meal ideas.
4. Your Date Can Stay Out Late Or Spend The Night
There’s nothing worse than cooking a big meal, eating dinner together, and then having the girl tell you she has to leave because of school or work the next morning.
Make sure that your date’s schedule is clear enough that she can stay over if she wants to.
If the girl doesn’t have anything going on the next morning, invite her over. If not, postpone the date. This way your night isn’t rushed, and the girl your with doesn’t have to go home at 10:30 so she can be ready for work the following morning.
Some simple planning can save you from getting cockblocked by your date’s prior engagements.
5. Your Date Wants To Have Sex With You
Although most Vietnamese women are shy and conservative, there are plenty of girls who’ll let you know when they’re horny.
Oftentimes, these women are very straightforward. They’ll let you know that they want to hang out at your place, or they’ll make hints that you should invite them over.
In these cases, you’re almost guaranteed to get laid. When this happens, it’s a good idea to have the girl over for dinner. Not only will the two of you going to do it, but you can eat leftovers as a post-sex snack.
Win-win.
Final Thoughts
(Japanese “Funny Face” Hot Dog Cutter)
The home dinner date is a powerful move that makes it easy to bring girls back to your place. Women who are into you will be happy to come over. And your apartment gives the two of you a nice private setting that’s perfect for sex.
If you’ve been looking for a way to take girls home (and “Netflix and chill” isn’t working), use this sophisticated alternative instead.
P.S. Want to get more dates? Check out my VietnamCupid review.