Over the past few years, dating advice has good from pretty typical stuff to sounding like ultra-materialistic American Psycho dialogue. Nobody is getting laid unless they’re a millionaire. Or you need a very specific brand of clothes before women even notice you.
Most of this is total BS.
You don’t want to be dead broke or walking around in dad jeans. But the following “status items” aren’t going to help you with women either.
1. A Nice Wristwatch
(My Daily Wear)
I like wristwatches and actually own several. I have a Patek Philippe Golden Ellipse, vintage Jaeger-LeCoultre Odysseus, and Cartier Pasha (my daily wear). At no point in my life have I ever had a random woman notice any of these timepieces and compliment me on them.
Maybe this is because my collection is mostly dress watches, but I don’t think so. The majority of women really aren’t that interested in watches.
Buying an expensive watch probably will not get you laid, and you’d be better off putting that money into something else like a better apartment or nicer clothes.
2. Prestige Credit Card
Have you ever been at a restaurant with friends and had someone specifically name drop the exact credit card that they were using to pay for their meal?
It’s happened to me a few times and it never comes across like a cool brag.
Credit cards are certainly useful and you can get a lot of great rewards with them. But it’s highly doubtful your American Express Gold Card is going to seal the deal when out on a dinner date.
Like watches, I have a pretty good credit card. It has literally never ever, ever come up once in conversation when paying for anything. The only time a girl will ever notice your card is if it gets declined. Seriously, that’s it. There’s no reason to flex when you’re paying the bill.
Get a good credit card and use it for the rewards, but don’t think it’s a useful tool for picking up women.
3. Million-Dollar Net Worth
This is a weird trend that’s becoming more and more popular. A lot of social media accounts now associate wealth with getting laid. “If you adore her, Dior her” or comments claiming only rich guys get hot girls are very common now.
For every Donald Trump or Woody Johnson, there are a thousand rich dudes with average or unattractive wives. Don’t believe me? Look at the “Wives of Wall Street.”
Case closed.
Being in-shape, fun, and interesting will get you laid a lot more than what’s in your bank account. Money can certainly help with dating, but it isn’t as important as some people make it out to be.
I’ve met a fair number of millionaires. I also know quite a few cool dudes who work out and have charisma. The cool dudes get laid far more.
Here’s What Will (Help) Get You Laid
Alright, now that we’ve covered what will not get you laid, let’s look at some things which actually do help you with women. These items are less about status and more about crafting a cool lifestyle. And building a quality lifestyle will do far more for your sex life than owning a particular watch or having a certain credit card ever could.
Alright, here’s what works.
1. Apartment In The Nicest Part Of Town
In America, you can live in 30 of the 50 states and go your whole life without ever seeing one hot girl. That’s no joke. Do you think a millionaire in North Dakota or Wyoming is drowning in beautiful women?
If you want to boost your sex life, go where the women already are.
My suggestion, find a trendy and upscale neighborhood and get a nice apartment. Anywhere neighborhood with parks, cafes, and restaurants will usually have hot girls in it. So will beach towns and cities with a thriving fashion or entertainment industry. In Thailand, I often run into TV stars and models while out and about. It’s not an every day occurrence, but it happens more than you’d think.
When travel opens back up, go on Agoda, rent a place in a major Asian city for one month, and see if that doesn’t solve 99% of your “girl problems.”
2. Stylish Clothes That Fit
Buy clothes that look good and fit you. Wear a button up shirt and quality jeans. Don’t wear graphic T-shirts or sports jerseys. That’s men’s fashion in a nutshell.
Interestingly, wearing nice clothes gives you the biggest advantage in America. Fashion is much more popular in Asia and Europe, where most guys dress stylishly. But in the United States? Not so much. Owning two or three basic, quality outfits will get you a ton of compliments.
I was frequently called “handsome,” “cute,” “hot,” etc while living in the US this summer. And all my outfits were pretty basic selections from Nordstrom’s Rack.
When it comes to men’s fashion, you don’t need anything too crazy. Go on YouTube and see what different stylists recommend. Or, pick up a book called Color for Men. It walks you through clothing options depending on your hair and skin tone.
3. Quality Cologne
(Bentley Intense Is A Compliment Magnet)
This is one of the very few accessory items which women do notice. I collect colognes and probably average one compliment per week off various fragrances. That’s pretty good, and it opens up about 30 – 50 new conversations with women each year.
While there are a lot of good colognes, Bently Intense is my daily wear and the biggest compliment getter I own. It smells fantastic, is reasonably priced, and women always tell me how much they like it.
You can pick up a bottle on Amazon.